This is going to be painful reading, particularly for those caught in pornography’s clutches, who are hurting and confused. Why can’t I beat this? you might be thinking. As the battle wages on and the losses pile higher, people fighting pornography can begin to doubt themselves, and if they’re believers, even question their own salvation.

This isn’t intended to make you feel more condemned: there is now no condemnation for those in Christ Jesus, we’ll get to that good news soon. But before we do, we must first see the ugliness of porn, particularly because studies show the majority of men and women think it’s acceptable. Hating porn will help to fight it.

Porn is a false reality. It’s like fake insta posts that misrepresent the truth. You see domestic bliss, sensational cooking, but zoom out and there’s a screaming child and a kitchen that looks like a bomb’s hit. Or there’s the edgy ones of a beautiful smiling Indian child, zoom out and you can see the context of a girl growing up in the midst of shocking child poverty.

Porn does not offer a real experience of sex – only a fantasy substitute of the real thing – a world you think you can control, where people clamor for your attention, even worship you, only it’s so addictive you become its slave. Studies have shown it be as addictive as drugs. What starts with occasional soft porn use often becomes harder; more stimulation is needed to achieve the same result.

Listen to serial rapist and killer Ted Bundy. More or less his final words, from an interview with Dr James Dobson:

“You are guilty of killing many women and girls” Dobson says, “how did it happen?”

“I grew up in a wonderful home with two dedicated and loving parents” Bundy says. “We attended church regularly [but] as a young boy of 12 or 13 I encountered, outside the home, in the local grocery and drug stores, softcore pornography… I’m not blaming pornography. I’m not saying it caused me to go out and do certain things. I take full responsibility for all the things that I’ve done… The issue is how this kind of literature contributed and helped mold and shape the kinds of violent behavior… Once you become addicted to it, and I look at this as a kind of addiction, you look for more potent, more explicit, more graphic kinds of material.”

Legal scholar Catharine MacKinnon says: “As with all prostitution, the women and children in pornography are, in the main, not there by choice but because of a lack of choices. They usually “consent” only in a degraded and demented sense of the word…in which a person who despairs at stopping what is happening, sees no escape, has no real alternative, was often sexually abused before as a child, may be addicted to drugs, is homeless, hopeless, is often trying to avoid being beaten or killed, is almost always economically desperate…”

Sure, there may be exceptions but this I believe is the norm, as testimony after testimony of porn actors and actresses, like Emily Eve, proves. “When I was finished with the scene” she said “my throat was bleeding, I had bruises all over my body, my vagina was torn in two places, and I ended up with pink eye. I felt so weak, used, and honesty I felt like I had been raped all over again.”

Jenna Jameson, one of the most ‘successful’ women in the industry, called the Queen of Porn, was asked what she would do if she had a daughter who wanted to get into porn. “I’d tie her in the closet” she said, “It’s not something any parent would choose for their child.”

By engaging with any form of porn you’re supporting an industry that’s pushing the boundaries and tries with all its might to sexualize youth. Ah, but you don’t pay for it so you’re not supporting anything. Wrong. Porn sites make money just by you visiting them, through increased page views, advertising and malware.

Porn wrecks men’s view of women. You see them as objects to be consumed. It wrecks women’s view of themselves. It defines beauty only in terms of externals, ignoring all important internals. It erodes your character, wastes time, and stops you enjoying God and serving Him.

Permit me to conclude this blog with a The Message inspired paraphrase of the beginning of Proverbs 5. “The lips of pornography drip honey, they’re oh so sweet and smooth but it won’t be long before they taste bitter and fill your stomach and heart with pain. Porn is headed straight for hell and wants to pull you down with it.”