A Woman is a Warrior Too
Happy Mother’s Day! This is the last in our series of blogs highlighting some amazing women throughout history who have inspired us and shaped our lives. To catch up on the ones you missed, click here.
By Becca Hodgson-Lorente
“A woman is a warrior too. But she is meant to be a warrior in a uniquely feminine way. Sometime before the sorrows of life did their best to kill it in us, most young women wanted to be a part of something grand, something important.”
Stasi Eldredge, Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman’s Soul
As a midwife I work in one of the only professions which is run predominantly by women for women. I am constantly inspired by the women I work for and with.
There are many special women who stick in my mind, the woman who delivered her baby in the car park, the woman who was more concerned that her dog was safe, the woman who danced through her labour, the woman who sneezed and delivered her baby in my half gloved hand, the woman who arrived in labour off the bus, the woman who cleaned her own room before I had a chance and many, many more.
The process which leads to the gift of life has to be the grandest and most significant I have ever had the privilege to witness. The sacrifice women make for their unborn babies is huge. Intensity and pain like nothing she has experienced before, eventually lead to the birth of new life. The people around can encourage and support and of course the father has contributed considerably in the creation of this baby! But, she has grown her baby and during her labour it is she who will birth her baby. As this takes place the woman herself is chief, the warrior and the boss. This is genuinely awe- inspiring.
I would like tell you about just one remarkable woman. Having been assigned the care of a first time pregnant mum, I went into the room to meet her. Here I found three women. I became the fourth and a few hours later, her baby girl became the fifth. With great strength, breath-taking stamina and fierce power, a woman and her cheerleaders witnessed the start of a new life. We had a little party and celebrated the birth of this little one. An ordinary woman grew a baby, birthed a baby and began the life-time task of looking after a baby. What a truly extraordinary thing to do!
As a Christian I see this act as a reflection of how Christ suffered hugely for his children in order to allow them a new life. A woman’s first instinct is to meet and embrace her new baby, to begin their relationship. Jesus went through the pain of the cross is in order to have a relationship with us.
Of course not all women are mothers or have this kind of experience of birth. However, I believe the principle is the same for every woman. Through Jesus, each of us has this same power to grow and birth what is good. This is a miracle and it is what we are MADE FOR! We have a unique set of qualities that are not the same each other’s and are definitely not the same as our male counterparts…. And that’s remarkable because we are able to do things men are just not designed to do!
To be brutally honest, there are times at three o’clock in the morning when I am with a women who has been in pushing for what seems like hours. She is exhausted, her partner is exhausted and believe me, her midwife is also exhausted. However, I know that when I am feeling tired, she is more tired, when I am ready for a break she is far more ready for a break, and when I have had enough she probably reached that point long before. There is actually no real comparison in our Saviour Jesus dying on the cross. He is our prefect role model. However, not only does he care intimately about our day to day lives, he also gives us his spirit to be able to live with his supernatural power inside us.
In the bible book of Galatians, the author Paul says “Let us not become weary in doing what is good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up” Galatians 6 v9. Our pain and struggle can be huge but then we can rejoice in our efforts as God promises a harvest of the good seed we have sown.
Finally, I am so inspired by those I work with. I am constantly challenged and amazed at the selflessness and servant hearts of cleaners, assistants and administration staff. My manager for example is quite happy to get her hands dirty, testing urine and cleaning a whole host of bodily fluids if necessary (and it often is….!). I admire this so much. As a manager, this is not something that she has to do. This reminds me of Jesus washing the disciple’s feet. My manager has a senior role, in comparison Jesus is the king. However, this king came in great humility and washed his friend’s dirty feet. The world often gives value and recognition to those who are served, not those who serve. These staff do good often without fuss or recognition. However, I know these colleagues whose work is based on genuine care and compassion, their motivation is not recognition. I am privileged to be a tiny cog in this elaborate network.
As women we are irreplaceable. We have God given qualities which are not only beautiful but are strong.
“Eve is essential. She has an irreplaceable role to play. And so you’ll see that women are endowed with fierce devotion, an ability to suffer great hardships, a vision to make the world a better place…” Stasi Eldredge, Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman’s Soul.